I think it was Maya Angelou who said “Most people don’t grow up, they age.” Lately I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching. In light of this process it’s caused me to really observe those around me, not that I don’t do that anyway. (tehehe) I’m realizing more and more that many people don’t mature they just age. I’m also realizing it seems that many people don’t want to mature and even avoid the process in various ways. I observe so many people going through the motions of doing “adult” things such as marriage, kids, buying a house, paying bills etc. However none of these things are synonymous with maturity. Sure, it’s responsible to take care of your responsibilities, but in the sense of one acting mature not so much. Acting mature can be subjective, but hopefully you get my point. Pain and unresolved issues could be to attribute for so many adults that age but not mature. It amazes me how many adults seem like adolescents trapped in adult bodies. I’m sure for many of you this isn’t a newsflash. It’s something I began to observe about six years ago, but it’s hit me more so as I reflect on those around me. There really is a distinct difference between aging and maturing. Well here’s to life and figuring it out as we go along.
As human beings we are often complex and far from one dimensional. I truly believe knowing yourself and learning to love what you find is the foundation for the everything else in life. This concept in and of itself seems relatively simple yet many spend time fabricating an image for the approval of others. It’s such a liberating thing to just be who you are. When you dare to be yourself it alleviates the unnecessary pressure to fit in or be something you’re not. Learning who you are never goes out of style unlike trends.
In expressing this of course that means we won’t always be compatible with others. I’ve been in the process of learning to accept people for who they are. *clears throat* I’ve learned that how I do something may not be your way and vice versa. This also entails letting go of the image you may create of someone vs. who they truly are. The bigger thing to remember is that it’s okay, as we all have a unique blueprint tailored made to who we are. I’ve spent so much energy in the past on being frustrated because I was misunderstood. I also spent a great deal of time being frustrated when I didn’t understand others. Often times our perception is limited.
We are all wired differently. We all have an internal wiring if you will, as well as different life experiences that shape the way we view things. But none of this begins to become apparent until we embrace being who we are. Which just maybe our ever evolving, bundle of contradictions, with good intentions selves.