Just a little reflection

There are some things others just won’t understand if they haven’t had the experience. And that’s okay. However, while one may not be able to fully grasp an experience , one could listen for understanding. There are just some things you can’t fully get to the extent of the individual’s own personal experience. But as listeners on the outside we can work on listening more for understanding rather than response. Oftentimes we respond with how we think the way something should be or may be full out dismissive. So today I say to you as I say to me , we all should work on listening for understanding more. An experience is not negated because you have not embodied it. It is true that often we only understand from our level of perception. This is often limited , since you only know what you know.

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Learning to trust the process

Lately in my life I’ve been learning more about holding on and when to release. This is sorta new for me. I hold on to things when they are long overdue for release. So fast forward the more I let go it’s gotten somewhat easier. I think that scares me a very tiny bit. In life we’re constantly evolving. Different phases of your life require different versions of you. In my current phase of life it’s different for me to be more decisive about when to let go. I hope I haven’t rambled too much. In learning when to hold on and when to release, I’m learning to trust the process. This is also new. Most of my life I’ve been a bit of an over thinker. I always wanted to try to figure out what the chapters ahead held. But I’m learning, emphasis on learning , to trust the process.

Becoming

Becoming is a funny thing. Throughout life we are often evolving. As we experience life we grow and change in different ways. I like to say take a picture and capture who I am in that time. There are some aspects of who you are that don’t change and are central to your core. However, different seasons in our lives can evolve us into people we ourselves don’t recognize. This is something I’m learning to grapple with. You can really know who you are as a person and an event or interaction takes place that brings forth a part of you , you never knew existed. The relationships and things that take place in our lives really can highlight who we are or are not. Here’s to growing through the challenges and ups and downs in life. . .Keep going!

Embracing Change

We often want to grow or go to the next level but not embrace change. I’m pretty open minded but I can be a creature of habit. The reality is you can’t stop what’s meant to be. Life is always in motion. We are often students and teachers in our journey. I’d like to think as open minded as I generally am, I’d be more open to change but I’m not. The things in my life that have brought substantial positive changes began with my usual stubborn , resistant disposition. I’m learning more to release and let what will be, be. I often fear the uncertainty of the unknown. I’m learning to trust the journey instead of rebelling against the uncertainty of the unknown.

When old things fall away . . .

Greetings Everyone! It’s been awhile. Lately in my life some things I’ve held on to for awhile are beginning to fall away so to speak. This made me reflect on how we often hold on to things that are long over due for release. In the releasing of old things I haven’t quite known what to do with myself. What would life be if you let go of some of the deep seated things you’re so accustomed to carrying? Just a little food for thought. What are some things in your life that you feel like you carry that it’s time to release? Feel free to share. Love and light. . .

How do you?

Greetings to all! Spring has sprung here in Georgia. Pollen is everywhere, bah humbug! It is very beautiful outside but the temperatures are already venturing into the eighties. One day I’ll live somewhere that has an actual spring. (lol) Hope this finds you in good spirits. Today I’ve been exploring how do you say those things that are difficult to say to those you love? This is something I’ve struggled with for years. I’m big on authentic relationships. I’m also a lover. I love hard. I say this to say I often don’t want to hurt those I’m close to by having those difficult conversations. I really don’t. I’m learning that there are some things that no matter how gentle and mindful you are in your approach, their just going to be difficult to hear and difficult to say. I think the key distinction here is when you’re revealing something from a place of sincerity or out of love versus just maliciously saying things that may sting. The truth often stings then hurts a little less as your mind adjusts.

After going through some challenging encounters with family and friends in the past I learned to weigh which difficult conversations were worth having and which ones I could let go. While they aren’t easy to have saying those difficult things makes for more authentic relationships. I guess you could say it kind of comes with the territory. I think it takes practice and for some it comes easier than for others. I’ve gotten practice speaking up more and weighing carefully those difficult conversations. However , I still dread them and sometimes sit with things for a while before mentioning them. In efforts to be true to myself and those I love I’m learning to say it. I would say it’s gotten easier with time, but it hasn’t necessarily. It still remains a challenge for me, more so the closer I am to someone. For example I know most people can relate to loving your mother, and not sure how to handle those difficult conversations. But again it puts a stifle in the relationship or an inner turmoil of sorts if you try to avoid or not be honest. These conversations hold an importance despite their difficulty and can foster new awareness or growth within the relationship. But I have to be perfectly honest with you in doing so at times it has incited friendships to end, become distant or birth a new good normal. Though it’s not easy I accept that because I have to walk in my truth. I think we often avoid saying certain things as to not upset the balance of the relationship. It seems you just have to say it! But of course it’s great to be mindful of timing and your tone. So how do you guys go about having those difficult conversations?

 

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I’m learning. . .

I’ve been trying to gather my thoughts to write a post. Lately I haven’t done so.  I’m trying to pin point what direction I want this to go in. But I don’t have one. There is a lot of newness in my life. I’m learning how to not feel guilty about outgrown friendships. Because for some reason I do.  I’m learning how to do more and dream less. I’m learning more so how to not take the actions, thoughts, or behaviors of others personally. Because at the end of the day it really isn’t about me. I can chose to take their stuff but why. I hope that makes sense. Can you tell I’ve been reading Wayne Dyer lately? I’m learning more and more time really is of the essence. We all only get one shot at this thing called life. I read something that said I’m always in a constant state of self renewal. I say that to say I currently feel like a blank canvas, slowly images are taking form on my canvas. However, I have no idea what this one will look like. I’m painting as I go along. I guess that’s all we can do. This has been a rambling of my thoughts in 2016. Please stay tuned.